A few years ago I was talking to a young mother who was pregnant with baby number three. I think I was pregnant with baby number six, and we got to talking about the difficulties of motherhood. A few months later she told me that something I had said to her made a lasting impression on her. I said, “being a mom is hard, but you get out of it, what you put into it.”
Basically, if you call it in and don’t give it your all, yeah, being a mom is going to suck. But if you are really giving it all you can, putting your whole heart into the process and being there for your kids, you will enjoy the journey so much more.
I was reminded of this conversation as I was doing my reading for my entrepreneur class. In A Field Guide for the Hero’s Journey (which, by the way, is an excellent book for life, not just entrepreneurship), it says, “Much of our long-term happiness coms from strong relationships, but such relationships require a deliberate investment of time and thought. As you sow, so shall you reap.”
I’ve been thinking a lot about passivity vs pro-activity lately. Anything in life worth having is worth working for. Far too many people (myself included) think that great rewards will come for no other reason than because we want them, or because those desires are righteous. In business, school, work, and in our relationships with our kids, our spouse and even our Father in Heaven, we have to be deliberate. Intentional. We can’t just wait for things to happen to us and hope it will all work out for the best. Because it won’t. Passivity is toxic and can ruin everything we hold dear, and is a symptom of laziness and selfishness.
Summer vacation recently started for my kids. Two days into it and I’m already wondering how on earth I managed to homeschool them for eight years! I think the reason why it’s been so hard is because I don’t have a plan. We wake up, and just let our day unfold. I need to stop that. As their mother, I need to create some kind of routine for them (and me) to be able to make the most of our time together this summer.
Our summer is going to include trips to the zoo and science center (where we have family memberships), a lot of martial arts training for everyone (at the gym and at home), a lot of reading, decluttering, dance parties, and maybe even a road trip or two.
What about you? How are you going to be deliberate with your summer?